🌿Part 4 of the _Burnout to Balance Series 🌿
Introduction: Small Shifts That Made a Big Difference
Burnout doesn’t announce itself with a flashing sign—it creeps in slowly, draining your energy, your motivation, and sometimes even your sense of self. For a long time, I thought I had to push through it, do more, be “stronger,” and eventually it would pass. But the truth is, there’s no single fix for burnout.
What actually helped me recover wasn’t one dramatic change—it was a series of small, intentional shifts in the way I thought, the habits I practiced, the self-care I prioritized, and the systems I put in place. These weren’t perfect or glamorous—they were realistic, doable, and designed to protect my energy while helping me reclaim control over my life.
In this post, I’m sharing the mindset shifts, tiny habits, self-care practices, and organizational strategies that helped me move from exhaustion to balance. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, or stuck, know this: you don’t have to do it all at once. Even the smallest changes can add up to real, lasting relief.
Mindset Shifts: Rewiring the Inner Critic
The way we talk to ourselves during burnout can be brutal. I found myself stuck in a relentless cycle of self-criticism—calling myself “lazy” when I was actually exhausted, feeling guilty for every moment I wasn’t productive, and comparing my messy reality to everyone else’s highlight reels.
The shifts that helped me recover weren’t about fake positivity or pretending everything was fine. They were about recognizing the thoughts that kept me stuck and gently redirecting them toward something more compassionate and realistic. These changes didn’t happen overnight (I still slip back into old patterns), but learning to reframe my inner voice became the foundation for everything else that followed.
Here are the key mindset shifts that made the biggest difference for me:
1. Awareness Comes First
The first step is simply noticing. Becoming aware of the signs of burnout and naming them for what they are gave me a chance to step in and care for myself before things got too bad.
2. Exhausted ≠ Lazy
I had to stop labeling myself “lazy” when I was really just depleted. There’s a huge difference between being unmotivated and being so drained your body is begging for rest. Recognizing that difference allowed me to give myself permission to slow down.
3. Letting Go of Guilt
For years, I felt guilty if the laundry piled up or the dishes sat in the sink. But I realized that sometimes the most productive thing I could do was go to bed early and catch up on sleep. (This ties back to my post on letting go of mom guilt.) Rest didn’t make me a failure—it made me more capable of handling everything else later.
4. Progress Over Perfection
“Done is better than perfect.” I used to finish something, then immediately redo it because I thought it could be better. That just created more work and drained more energy. Now I remind myself: if it isn’t broken, don’t fix it.
5. Energy Management
Burnout happens when you constantly give your energy without giving yourself space to restore it. I started scheduling lighter tasks after draining ones to let myself recover instead of running on empty all day.
6. The “Let Them” Theory
I’ve been reading a lot of self-help books, and one that really stood out to me was The Let Them Theory. It helped me realize that I don’t have to control or explain everything—sometimes the healthiest choice is to simply let people think what they want. You can check out The Let Them Theory here.
I can’t control what others do, and trying to only left me frustrated. If people want to gossip, criticize, or make choices I don’t agree with—let them. Protecting my peace matters more than managing everyone else.
7. “That’s Nursing, Baby”
There’s a saying: “that’s showbiz, baby.” For me, it became “that’s nursing, baby.”
Nursing often means being short-staffed, juggling admissions, filling out incident reports, and running from one crisis to the next. I used to get furious every time it happened, but the truth is—that’s just part of the job.
I remember one shift working with a brand-new nurse. We were short staffed, so between the two of us we had to cover two full hallways each. On top of that, dayshift hadn’t finished admissions, so we had to complete those too. Then, to top it off, one of her patients had a fall, which meant she had to stop and complete an incident report. She looked at me, overwhelmed, and asked why I wasn’t just as upset and angry as she was.
The reality? I used to get upset, but eventually I realized that complaining or raging at management in the moment doesn’t change the fact that the work still has to be done. It’s not fair, and it’s exhausting, but unfortunately—it’s nursing. So I’ve learned to expect it. When you expect that these things will happen, you’re not as shocked or angry every time they do.
As I tell myself: “Hope for the best, but expect the worst.”
Or, in the words of the Lion King: “Sometimes bad things happen, and there’s nothing you can do about it. Hakuna matata.”
8. Stop Picking Up the Slack
For a long time, I thought going above and beyond at work was the “right” thing to do. If I picked up extra shifts, stayed late, or worked faster than everyone else, surely it would help the team and make things better for everyone.
But here’s what actually happened: the more I did, the more they expected from me. The more efficient I became, the more they piled onto my plate.
At one of my nursing home jobs, we were short on nurses. Instead of hiring more staff, management just kept relying on me and another nurse to pick up almost every shift. From their perspective, there was no problem to solve—shifts were being covered, so why bother hiring and training new people?
It wasn’t until we finally stopped picking up all that extra work—because we were completely burned out—that management realized they had to hire more nurses. That experience taught me an important truth: sometimes the system doesn’t change until you step back and stop trying to hold it all together yourself. Sometimes you may have to let things break and come crashing down.
9. Compartmentalization
Nursing requires an incredible amount of mental focus, but at the same time, my personal life was falling apart. I often wondered: How do I push pause on my own problems while taking care of everyone else’s?
For me, the answer was compartmentalization.
Sometimes it was actually a relief to step into work for 12 hours and focus entirely on my patients. Even though the shift was stressful, at least I could do something positive for someone else—and that gave me a sense of purpose when everything in my own life felt overwhelming.
But jI also had to learn how to leave work at work. Our unit had group message chats, and at first, I’d check them constantly—even when I was off. It kept me in a state of stress 24/7. Eventually, I started muting the chats when I got home. On days I was scheduled to go back, I’d turn them on about an hour before my shift and catch up on what I’d missed. And you know what? If something was truly urgent, they’d call me.
That simple boundary gave me permission to rest at home without dragging work stress into my personal life.
Organization: Creating Order from the Chaos
One of the biggest contributors to my burnout wasn’t just the long shifts or the stress of nursing—it was the mental load. Keeping track of school events, sports schedules, appointments, meal planning, housework, my job, and my side businesses felt like a never-ending loop of “what am I forgetting?” My brain never got a break.
What finally helped me wasn’t picture-perfect, Pinterest-style organization with matching bins and color-coded calendars. It was creating simple systems that could hold all the moving pieces of my life so my brain didn’t have to.
Organization didn’t give me perfection—it gave me peace of mind. And honestly, that was exactly what I needed.
1. Clearing My Space to Clear My Head
The first thing I noticed was how much my environment affected my mood. Did you know that having a clean space can actually boost your focus and energy? Now, I’m not saying my whole house is spotless (definitely not!). But I do try to keep my desk—the spot where I work on my blog and travel business—clean and clear.
If papers, laundry, or dishes are piled up around me, I can’t concentrate. I’ll start thinking about all the chores waiting for me instead of the task in front of me. Sometimes, before I can even start working, I’ll take five minutes to clear off my desk. It’s a small thing, but it makes a big difference in how focused and calm I feel.
2. Fighting Decision Fatigue with Systems
Decision fatigue is real—especially when you’re burned out. When every choice feels overwhelming, creating systems can save so much time and energy.
For me, that looked like building checklists and workflows I could reuse. Instead of trying to remember every step each time, I just duplicate a list and follow it. Trello has been a lifesaver here. I’ve built workspaces with boards for my personal life, my blog, and my travel business, each with lists and cards to keep things moving. It took effort to set up, but now it saves me hours (and a lot of stress) in the long run.
3. Going Digital
I used to swear by paper planners, but I can’t count how many times I left mine at home when I actually needed it. Eventually, I switched to digital, and honestly, I’ll never go back.
Now, everything lives on my phone—which I always have with me. Google Calendar, Google Tasks, Google Keep, and Trello are my go-to tools. Whether it’s recipes, login info, or a reminder for my kids’ school events, I know where to find it. No more digging through piles of paper or scrolling endlessly through my camera roll to find a screenshot I saved.
If you’re a visual person, Trello is especially helpful—it lets you organize things in a way that feels more like a bulletin board than a list.
4. Time Blocking and Deadlines
One of the most helpful strategies I’ve adopted comes from the book The 12 Week Year. I started time blocking and giving myself deadlines.
Here’s the trick: if you give yourself a whole day to do a task, it will take all day. But if you give yourself a two-hour deadline, suddenly there’s urgency—and most of the time, you’ll get it done in those two hours. That shift alone helped me stop dragging things out and start actually finishing them.
Another lesson from that book was simple but powerful: execution matters. Stop procrastinating and just do the thing.
5. Task Batching
Task batching has been another game-changer. Instead of switching gears constantly, I try to group similar tasks together and knock them out in one sitting.
- When I meal plan, I plan the whole month at once and create shopping lists for each week, instead of starting from scratch every Sunday.
It’s so much easier to stay in the same “headspace” and build momentum than to start and stop a dozen times.
6. The Power of Breaks
And finally—breaks. BREAKS ARE IMPORTANT.
Just like sleep restores your body, breaks restore your mind. I’ve learned to set timers so I don’t work endlessly without pausing. Even a 10-minute break to step outside, stretch, or grab a snack helps reset my brain. When I come back, I’m clearer, calmer, and much more productive.
Organization doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s system. What matters is creating simple structures that lighten your mental load and give you back some breathing room. For me, that meant clearing my desk, going digital, using checklists, and respecting the power of breaks. None of it is fancy—but it works.
Habits: Building a Life That Supports You
When you’re burned out, the idea of adding new habits can feel overwhelming—like one more thing on an already impossible to-do list. But the habits that helped me weren’t about doing more. They were about making life easier, lighter, and more sustainable.
These weren’t the picture-perfect routines I saw on social media. They were simple, flexible practices I could do even on my hardest days. Some took just a couple of minutes, others required saying “no” to things I thought I should be doing. The key was choosing habits that gave me energy instead of draining what little I had left.
1. Starting the Day Without My Phone
I used to check my phone the second I opened my eyes. Before I’d even gotten out of bed, I’d be scanning messages, work chats, and notifications—immediately putting my brain into “go-go-go” mode. The problem was, I hadn’t even given myself a chance to wake up yet, and I was already using up mental energy.
Now, I do things differently. I get up, go to the bathroom, make a cup of coffee, and then sit outside while I let the dogs out. Just five quiet minutes outdoors does wonders for my mood and productivity. Only after that do I check my phone and start putting out fires. It’s a small shift, but it sets a completely different tone for my day.
2. Phone Boundaries That Actually Work
Since I work nights, my phone used to be a constant source of distraction during the day when I was trying to sleep. Now, I put it on Do Not Disturb so it isn’t buzzing all day long.
And, as I mentioned earlier, I keep work group chats muted. I don’t check them until about an hour before my shift starts. If it’s truly urgent, someone can call me—but most of the time, it’s not. Protecting that boundary keeps me from living in a state of constant work anxiety.
3. Setting Boundaries With My Time
Another habit that completely changed things for me was learning to say no.
For years, I picked up extra shifts because I didn’t want to let anyone down—or because I thought it would make me look like a team player. But all it really did was drain me further. And honestly, it didn’t fix anything long-term. As long as I kept saying yes, management didn’t feel the urgency to hire more staff.
The first few times I said no, I felt guilty—like I was letting my coworkers or my boss down. But I soon realized that every “no” I gave to something that drained me was a “yes” to rest, to family time, and to my health. And you know what? The world didn’t fall apart when I stopped picking up every shift. In fact, management eventually hired more staff because the gap couldn’t be ignored anymore.
Now I see boundaries not as being selfish, but as an essential habit for survival. Saying no is part of protecting my energy.
4. Physical Release (Still a Work in Progress)
Stress builds up in your body. Cortisol, the stress hormone, can wreak havoc—causing weight gain, mood swings, anxiety, sleep problems, and even high blood pressure. The best way to release it is through movement—exercise, deep breathing, stretching.
I’ll be honest: I’m not a workout person. Exercise doesn’t come naturally to me, and I only manage it once in a while. But even short walks, deep breaths, or stretching before bed make a difference. This is still a habit I’m working on, but I’ve noticed even a little bit helps my body reset.
5. Outsourcing What I Can
This might not sound like a “habit,” but it’s been life-changing: grocery pickup and delivery.
Instead of spending an hour wandering the store (and overspending on things I didn’t need), I order groceries while I’m at work. If I choose pickup, I can swing by on my way home and have everything loaded right into my car. Even better is delivery. I can schedule it for the hour I get off work, and when I pull into my driveway, the groceries are waiting on my porch. No store, no lines, no heavy lifting—just grab them from the doorstep.
This has been especially helpful for bulky items like dog food and cat litter. It saves me time, energy, and stress—three things I desperately need during recovery.
6. Reading (and Listening) for Growth
One of the most supportive habits I’ve developed has been reading self-help and personal growth books. Many of the ideas that shaped my recovery came straight from these pages. The challenge, of course, is finding the time and energy to read when you’re already burned out.
So I gave myself permission to do it differently. I started listening. Through Audible, I can play books on stress management, productivity, finances, or personal development while I do simple chores like dishes and laundry. What used to feel like draining tasks suddenly became enjoyable—I actually wanted to do the laundry just so I could finish the next chapter.
Reading (or listening) has become both relaxing and energizing. It feeds my mind while also giving me tools I can use in real life.
One self-help book that truly resonated with me was The Cure for Burnout. It reinforced the idea that burnout recovery isn’t about pushing harder—it’s about finding balance and rebuilding from a place of compassion. It’s kind of what inspired me to write this blog series, Burnout to Balance. Check out The Cure for Burnout here.
7. Stop Over-Explaining
Another habit I’ve been working on is learning to stop over-explaining myself.
For a long time, I felt like I owed everyone a full explanation anytime I called off work, said no, or couldn’t take on a request. I wanted people to understand, to empathize, to not think I was being difficult. But the truth is… not everyone deserves an explanation, and not everyone actually cares.
Learning to say a simple “I’m sorry, I can’t” without justifying myself has been freeing. It reduces guilt, protects my energy, and lets me focus on what really matters—taking care of myself. Over time, I’ve realized that setting these little boundaries around my communication is just as important as setting them around my time or tasks.
Final Thoughts on Habits
Habits don’t have to be big or glamorous to make a difference. In fact, the smaller and simpler, the better. Whether it was starting my day without my phone, setting boundaries with my time, listening to self-help books, finding little ways to move my body, or outsourcing grocery shopping—these tiny shifts added up.
Instead of draining me, they gave me breathing room—and that’s exactly what I needed to start feeling human again.
One of the most helpful books I’ve read about habits is Atomic Habits by James Clear.
Self-Care: Beyond Bath Bombs and Face Masks
Real self-care during burnout recovery looks nothing like what we see in magazines or wellness blogs. It’s not about carving out hours for elaborate routines or spending money you don’t have on products that promise to fix everything.
The self-care that actually helped me heal was often simple, practical, and sometimes unglamorous—setting boundaries, asking for help, and sometimes choosing rest over productivity. It wasn’t indulgence or something I had to earn; it was necessary for survival. These small acts allowed me to show up for my family and myself in a sustainable way.
Giving Yourself Permission to Call Off Work
I grew up in a generation that prided itself on a strong work ethic. I rarely called off—I think I went four years without missing a single shift. But that meant going to work sick with the flu, limping in with a sprained ankle, or showing up after losing a loved one. It made life miserable and only fueled my burnout.
Now, I’m learning to give myself permission to call off when I need it—and, importantly, not feel guilty when I do. Self-care sometimes means putting your health and well-being first, even if it goes against old habits or workplace culture.
Taking Breaks and Vacations
Did you know 55% of Americans don’t use their PTO? Vacations—even free ones—can do wonders for your mind, body, and soul. I remember after a Florida vacation, my adult acne was clearing up, my mood felt lighter, and I felt genuinely rested. Of course, life returned a few weeks later, but that week away gave me a mental reset I desperately needed.
Even small breaks during the day can help. Pausing for five minutes in the car before walking into the house, sitting outside in the morning with a cup of coffee, or simply stepping away from work tasks—all of these are tiny but powerful ways to recharge.
Getting Support
Having people you can rely on and vent to is critical. A strong support system can make or break your recovery.
I know not everyone has family or friends nearby, and that can make things harder. For me, therapy became a vital part of my self-care. Don’t worry—therapy doesn’t have to be intimidating. My therapist mostly just listens while I vent, but it makes a huge difference. It’s a safe space to process emotions and get perspective. For anyone who feels like they have no one to talk to, therapy can be a real lifesaver—no shame in that.
Everyday Self-Care Habits That Helped
Some small, daily habits helped me maintain balance and protect my energy:
- Eating regular meals and snacks to keep blood sugar stable
- Taking vitamins or medications consistently
- Staying hydrated throughout the day
- Sitting outside for five minutes first thing in the morning
- Pausing in the car for five minutes before going inside to decompress
- Doing something creative, even if just for a few minutes
Self-care doesn’t have to be elaborate or expensive—it just has to be intentional. These little actions may seem small, but together, they created the foundation I needed to recover from burnout and start feeling like myself again.
Conclusion: Small Shifts, Big Impact
Recovering from burnout isn’t about a single breakthrough or a magic fix. For me, it was the small, consistent shifts—mindset adjustments, tiny habits, practical self-care, and simple organizational systems—that added up over time. None of these changes were glamorous or perfect, but together they gave me space to breathe, energy to show up, and the mental clarity to start enjoying life again.
The key takeaway is this: you don’t have to do it all at once. Start with one small shift—maybe setting a boundary at work, taking five minutes outside in the morning, or batching a simple task like meal planning. Celebrate the wins, no matter how tiny, and allow yourself to build on them gradually.
Burnout may have taken a lot from me, but it also taught me what truly matters: compassion for myself, realistic expectations, and the courage to prioritize my own well-being.
If you’re reading this and feeling exhausted, know that you’re not failing. Recovery is a process, and every small step you take to protect your energy and reclaim your life matters. Over time, these small shifts don’t just help you survive—they help you thrive.
In Part 5, I’ll share how creating a calming corner in my home became an anchor during recovery—a simple physical space that supported my emotional healing and gave me a place to breathe when life felt overwhelming.
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